Editor’s Note: Hundreds of Ann Landers’ loyal readers have requested that newspapers continue to publish her columns. These letters originally appeared in 1999.
Dear Ann Landers: I am a busy physician in a small town. My wife and I have a wonderful marriage, and my practice is thriving. The problem? My parents. I work 12 hours a day and usually bring work home at night. I barely see my kids, and those few moments I can spend with them are precious to me. My telephone number is unlisted because I do not want to be disturbed when my workday is finished.
Patients who are trying to reach me at night often call my parents, who then track me down and insist I call the patients back right away. I have asked my folks repeatedly to direct these patients to my office or to the doctor on call for the evening, but they refuse. They say, “We don’t want to offend anyone.” Well, when they do this to me, I am offended greatly.
I love my parents and am willing to give my patients 100 percent when I’m up at-bat, but I need some time for myself and my kids. I feel as if I am suffocating. Please tell me how to deal with this. — Going Under in Kentucky
Dear Kentucky: It may be difficult to retrain your parents, but it’s not impossible. Inform them that you will not return any calls to patients after hours, no matter who gives you the message. Then, keep your word. If your parents don’t want to offend anyone, they should say, “I’m sorry, but our son is not on duty now. Please call his office in the morning and make an appointment. If it’s an emergency, go to the hospital immediately.”
Dear Ann Landers: Will you please say something on behalf of recovering stroke victims? I had a stroke five years ago.
My left side was paralyzed, my speech was unrecognizable and the prognosis was that I would leave the hospital in a wheelchair. Through sheer determination, I walked out with a cane. My manual dexterity has returned, and my voice and speech have made a major recovery. My legs are still shaky, but I can walk.
People need to know that a stroke can mess up a person’s emotions. One tends to laugh at the most inappropriate times and cry at the drop of a hat. Both are uncontrollable.
After my recovery, I had a business making and repairing golf clubs. When I started to deal with strangers, the business went downhill. Recently, a woman at my pharmacy told me she had run into a couple who had been in my shop. They asked what was wrong with me because I sometimes laughed when nothing was funny. Most people think you are mentally incompetent if you do this. I have a Bachelor of Arts in psychology and a Master of Business Administration. I taught myself to design Web sites at the age of 70. I am far from being an idiot. Please tell them. — Bill in Illinois
Dear Bill: You told them in a way far better than I could have. Thank you for educating millions of people today. They never will look at a stroke victim the same way again. Bless you, Bill.
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BY L. BRENT BOZELL AND TIM GRAHAM

Brian Williams’ six-month suspension has fallen flat. His critics aren’t mollified. His supporters are clearly dispirited. Everyone knows this one is not over — though his tenure at NBC may very well be done.
The suspension isn’t going to work for the same reason his apology went nowhere. It resolves nothing.
Hubris. So many celebrities — be they politicians, journalists, artists — refuse to accept that the cover-up and obfuscation is always worse than the crime. Time and again, when honesty and humility beckon, they are nowhere to be found.
So it was with Richard Nixon. Had he accepted personal responsibility, immediately, and then taken the steps, immediately, to investigate and resolve the matter, there would have been no Watergate scandal marring his legacy.
Ronald Reagan did address Iran-Contra immediately, personally taking responsibility and firing staff responsible. But the body language of his administration and supporters (we were in that number) was different: The Contra cause was noble (and it was), therefore the funding was, well, clever. Except it was illegal.
Bill Clinton both lied (“Ah did nah have sexual relations with that woman”) and obfuscated (“it depends upon what the meaning of the word ‘is’ is”) and deserved his impeachment, removal from the bar and should have been removed from office for perjury.
The Williams explanation in his “apology” was a farce. He “misremembered” being hit by an RPG. For the love of God. This might be true if he had subsequently undergone a frontal lobotomy, otherwise it was not just untrue, it was impudent. Let them eat cake. He then added a new falsehood, suggesting the RPG had hit the helicopter in front of him when no such thing took place. And no small arms fire. And not injuries to his pilot. And …
Hillary Clinton is no different. She has yet to answer for Benghazi, hoping her media allies will help in the cover-up (which they’ve done diligently thus far). If forced to testify, she feigns anger, then tearful sorrow, all for the cameras and the evening news.
She still has to answer for the lies she told about Bosnia. More important, she needs to come clean about the insulting explanation she provided.
In a speech at George Washington University on March 17, 2008 she recounted the story about her harrowing experience at the airport in Tuzla during the Bosnian war. “I remember landing under sniper fire. There was supposed to be some kind of a greeting ceremony at the airport, but instead we just ran with our heads down to get into the vehicles to get to our base.”
It was beyond dramatic. It was pure drama. As Media Research Center sleuth Rich Noyes discovered looking at news footage of that trip, nothing of the sort had occurred. There she was, smiling, standing in front of schoolchildren lined up on the tarmac. Accepting their flowers.
How to explain this dishonesty? Why, with another dishonesty, and even that only when growing public outrage threatened to derail her candidacy. She told a friendly audience, smiling, laughing, that by golly that was a whopper, wasn’t it? (SET ITAL) Yuk-yuk. (END ITAL) She was tired. It was all because of “sleep deprivation.” (SET ITAL) Yuk-yuk. (END ITAL)
That was as dishonest as the original statement. Sleep deprivation can cause you to forget you were in Cairo when you stated you were in Cannes. Or that you met with Queen Sophia when it was Queen Elizabeth. But sleepiness does not cause a person to make up entire stories about ducking enemy sniper fire any more than misrememberance explains tall tales about RPG attacks.
Brian Williams lied. The honorable thing was to apologize, honestly and completely, and resign. His career would have been resurrected immediately. If he refused to, the honorable decision from Comcast/NBC was termination and a corporate apology (which they owed anyway). Neither happened. Instead it was a bizarre long-term suspension, and another self-inflicted wound, and more bleeding as the Peacock Network’s credibility disintegrates.
L. Brent Bozell III is the president of the Media Research Center. Tim Graham is director of media analysis at the Media Research Center and executive editor of the blog NewsBusters.org. To find out more about Brent Bozell III and Tim Graham, and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate Web page at www.creators.com.
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